Relationships are important. The most important relationship is with yourself.
In the year 2025, there is so much content. I wish I could sound even more hyperbolic, but information overload.
I love understanding systems and processes.. I’m currently focusing on how to process your feelings. When there is a bump in the road how do you move on? Is it challenging to move on? Is it a communication or intimacy issue?
Are you having the same fight? Living parallel lives? Breakup? What is your pain in the relationship?
What are my red flags of being triggered?
- Large reaction
- Shutting down
- Black and white thinking – all or nothing; use of imagery
- Feeling I’m right
- Coping strategies
Step 1: Identify you are being triggered. What am I being triggered back to? Be curious. Be a detective. Release the emotion around the trigger. What are you feeling in your head or in your body? Do you make a sound? Does it feel good to share what you felt back then? Is there a block?
Step 2: How is the current situation different? Yes, the past could remind you of the present, but is there a difference? Maybe you did end up in the present with the past person. There could be a lot of projections. Let’s concretize details. I am not a child anymore. The pain I felt back then feels like today, but there is space and a difference. Just having the space to talk about it is a large difference.
Step 3: The now. The patterns can be revealed. To be accountable. To be honest. To be vulnerable. To own the issue. What do I need right now? Apology? Classification? Does something need to change?
ONE SOUND TWO BIRDS 